We’ve all felt sad at some point; it’s a part of the ups and downs of life. It’s a natural reaction to being upset or in pain, and like every emotion, it’s temporary, often fading once a situation is resolved or we’ve come to terms with what has upset us.
Sadness is one basic emotion of seven identified by psychologist Dr. Paul Ekman, and although it may manifest in different forms it’s generally associated with negative moods and unhappy feelings.
What’s more is that – much like anger – it often occurs in conjunction with other feelings, and sometimes those other feelings are so strong that you may not realise you are sad.
Do you feel abandoned, blue, bereaved, bothered, crestfallen, concerned, crushed, dejected, depressed, despondent, discouraged, disappointed, detached, dismayed, fatigued, gloomy, glum, hopeless, heartbroken, lonely, melancholy, numb, sombre, sorrowful, subdued, tearful, tender, useless, unhappy, vulnerable, victimized? These are all feelings associated with sadness.
Sadness is a powerful emotion. It can change how you feel emotionally (are you teary?) as well as physically (headache anyone?).
But saying this, it’s okay to feel sad. Recognising your sadness and understanding where it comes from is a sign of a stable sense of wellbeing.
Sadness is an important emotion. It can prompt you to slow down, think about your life and make choices that improve your life. It can help you adapt, accept, focus, persevere and grow.
It’s important to know that there are ways to cope with the emotion: rest, trust that things will improve, talk to someone you trust, do things that you enjoy, take one step at a time.
It’s also important to note that there are people out there who can support you through your sadness and help you to move on. Quandary Pond is one such!
