A lot is said about anger as an aggressive, hurtful, harmful emotional response to something we believe is done to us, but let’s look at anger as a helpful motivator to our own lack of activity.
Below is a depiction of the ‘Cycle of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions’.
When we are tired, low in mood or even depressed for too long, disappointment in ourselves and our lack of motivation can lead to frustration and self-annoyance. Thoughts like; “Get me out of here!” may produce a spurt of anger which can help to fire us up with an increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline, triggering the fight response to get us motivated once again.
But this is where it can get tricky. Once we’ve given ourselves a foot-up out of our lowest energy level and into the energy of defiance and hostility, this is when we should stop, breathe, and ponder the next productive and positive action for the most beneficial and effective outcome. There are two paths we can take here.
The road to conflict and blame
We can stay being angry and allow the emotion to overrun us until we are no longer in control of our actions, which then play out negatively.
The road to relief and responsibility
We can practice being aware of our emotions and make a solid choice to take positive and productive actions.
Remember, you are the Master of Your Mind. By pausing and investigating what emotions and feelings are coming up for you, you are able to assess what’s really behind the emotion and make a more informed judgement call for your next course of action.
When you allow yourself to be in a place of awareness and understanding, you empower yourself. You are in control of your emotions, not the other way around.
Embolden yourself with your newfound power. Feel the triggers, understand them and choose the best positive action for the mature adult you are.
Let your anger become A Nobly Guided Energy Release.
In the video below we explore changing negative feelings into positive action.