Getting the Best Out of Yourself: The Importance of S.O.L.I.T.U.D.E

23/08/2021by Terry White
Spend Quality Time with yourself


Getting the Best Out of Yourself

Over the past few months we’ve talked a lot about self-love, being kind to yourself and changing your inner dialogue. Now it’s time to enjoy being by yourself. Continue reading to see how you can save yourself with some sweet solitude or listen to the article here…



Taking time for yourself sounds like the hardest thing to do, but if you consider every moment you spend on your smartphone, playing games, checking social media, watching news clips and videos of people you don’t know, it’s not impossible. Imagine if you turned everything off and allowed yourself some good ol’ fashioned daydreaming.



Be receptive to allowing your brain to do what it does best, PROCESS. The brain is a processor. When you give your brain the time and space to process all the information it is exposed to, without extra input (from your digital devices) you allow your mind to sort out data that’s important to remember and store, to make sense of felt emotions and to file them or to discard whatever it doesn’t need. When you allow this to happen, your mind can then move onto finding calm and clarity.



Loneliness is sometimes mistaken for ‘being alone’. This may be a reason you reach for your smartphone or some other kind of distraction when you are by yourself. Or you may think you are bored and need something to do, you don’t. Relax, sit back and enjoy being solitary.



Once your mind is in the habit of being still, you will find yourself daydreaming. Daydreaming is the companion of visionaries. New ideas, solutions to problems and fresh thinking are what come from giving yourself peace and quiet. It may be strange, but our minds are the most productive when we are at our stillest.



The wonderful reward for being by yourself is that your mind can become creative. What could you do with all the great ideas that will be streaming into your mind? Will you pursue a new interest, learn something new or start a business? Anything is possible. Every man-made object you see around you was once a thought.



Being left alone with your own thoughts helps you find out more about who you are, your likes and dislikes, who you relate to and the changes you might want to make after some reflection and consideration. Spending time with your imagination will give you a better understanding of who you are now and who you want to be in the future.



Taking time away from constant external mental activity and resting the mind by way of free thought and daydreaming allows the brain to process data and rest. This encourages the mind to be more present when you reconnect with friends and productive at work/study activities.



Do yourself a favour – uncouple yourself from your digital devices, give yourself a break from long hours of study, let go of the worry of work commitments – and relax. Explore your mind, discover yourself. When you start to enjoy your own company, you will never really be alone.


If reaching a state of solitude sounds good to you but you feel you don’t know how to get there on your own, Quandary Pond is the best place to start.

Terry White